Now I am well aware that I have some weight to lose, believe me I got it, I do own a mirror. But just like you I was on vacation with my husband and my kids minding my own business and there you were fit as a fiddle in your short dress and sandals. If you didn't open your mouth I would have thought you were quite pretty, that your family looked so happy and nice. But nope you opened your trap and your ugly spilled out. You looked right in my face and said "If I ever get cellulite like that, I will kill myself." "Some people should not wear shorts!" Wait, what????? Did you really just say what I think you said?
I felt like I was being stabbed, I felt like the little fat kid again being teased in Grammar School. I am ashamed to say that I let your ugly words ruin my day. We had plans to go in the pool at our hotel and that didn't happen because I let your words define me. I let your words mean something to me, when really they should have meant nothing. When I should have known that what you think about me, has nothing to do with me but everything to do with you. I am embarrassed that I let your words cause me to miss swimming in the pool with my son. I am ashamed not of my cellulite but that I let someone's unkindness make me feel like less of a person, less of a mother, less of a wife. I am sad that I missed making memories with my family because you are so unhappy in your own life that you have to make someone else feel bad about themselves, to make yourself feel better. You obviously are very high maintance with your designer sundress, designer shoes, and lets not forget the designer watch and purse. You obviously took way too long in front of the mirror.
It was very hot out which is why I had shorts on and I don't often wear shorts because you see the flaws that you pointed out are exactly the flaws I see in myself, the very flaws that I am self conscious about. So it is a rare occassion that I wear shorts. But I was having so much fun with my family, making a conscious effort to show up in pictures with my kids and not caring what anyone thought. Then you showed up thinking I couldn't hear you because apparently if you are fat you are also deaf.
This is not the first time that I have dealt with people belittling me because of my weight, it happened all the time as a child by my own family members and friends. So this is not my first rodeo as they say. I have dealt with people and their views of how I should look for a long time and I am tired of it. You know that saying, you know the one your mother should have taught you but didn't. "If you don't have anything nice to say than don't say anything at all."
This happened this past summer and it has taken me this long to put it out there. It was hurtful and embarrassing. But I learned that her opinion of me is of no value to me whatsoever. I have so many things in my life to be happy about and thankful for. I am working on my physical self and I hope to look as good in a dress one day as she did but I know that my inner self, my kindness, my happieness, my joy is in tip top shape which is more than I can say for some people.
I wanted to make a video about it, but I can express my feelings better when I write.
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